One Little Word, One Big Head Trip

All it takes sometimes is one little word to undermine all the success you have accomplished. That’s what has happened to a friend of mine. Long story short, she made the decision to get healthy and she lost 50 pounds. 5 – 0. I’m so proud of her because she made a commitment to herself and stuck with it. Then the other day she had a doctor’s appointment and he told her that according to her BMI she was obese.

Yep. That little word packs a mighty powerful punch.

As quickly as that word slipped out of his mouth, all that my friend had accomplished disappeared. She could only focus on the word “obese”.

Of course I told her that she’s done an amazing job and that she should be so proud of herself for what she’d done. I told her not to focus on that word. Just keep going forward and that BMI scale can kiss her ass.

On Sunday, my friend put her dog in her car and went on a long hike. It was a good one because she was sore the next day. I was glad to see that she was rebounding from the trauma of that one little word.

I’m 22 years older than my friend and I’ve found that certain words can play with my head, but I’m finding that their effect has a shorter lifespan. I guess some things do get easier as we age.

Are You Adding Years to Your Appearance?

Remember the days when we wanted to look ten years older? Our teen years. We wanted to look old enough to do certain things that were totally…legal. There, I said it. Whether it was to get into a “R” rated movie or buy a drink at a bar or get into a nightclub, we wanted to look older. But these days? We really don’t want to look older. So, what are the little things that we are doing that age us?

Woman’s Day magazine has a list of 10 ways women make themselves look older. Yes, they have given us a heads-up on what we shouldn’t be doing. I’m certain every Healthy Chick will be grateful for that. I checked out the list of those dastardly offenders…just to make sure I wasn’t guilty of any of them.

Phew.

I’m not guilty.

But, I’m going to share five of the offenses with you now (not in any particular order)and the take-away lesson you should learn. Check out the complete survey for more information.

#1 Dyeing Your Hair Blonde

Blonde doesn’t mean youthful for every woman. We need to be mindful of your skin tone. I’m a natural blonde and the color I use is my natural color, golden blonde. But as I age, I may need to change up the color so that it flatters my skin tone.

#2 Skimping on Deep Conditioning

Aging hair needs moisture. Try a hair mask or deep conditioning product once a week. And I use Moroccan Oil every day on my hair and I love it. Battles the frizz while keeping my hair soft.

#3 Wearing old bras

Need I say more? Okay, as we age our bodies change but old bras don’t. The right bra will not only lift the girls (always a sign of youthfulness) and help improve your posture.

#4 Wearing Dull Colors

Dull colors do nothing to brighten our skin tone, especially around the face. Banish the dullness in your wardrobe.

#5 Wearing Baggy Clothes

Yes, comfort is a good thing but baggy clothes can add pounds which can add years to our appearance. Ditch the baggy, resist the tight-fitting and choose well-tailored clothing.

It looks like I’ve been navigating the rough waters of aging pretty good so far but that doesn’t mean I shouldn’t from time to time do a re-assessment of my appearance. It’s when we become complacent and comfortable that bad behaviors take hold. And we never want to develop bad behaviors.

But we do want chocolate!

Yesterday was Valentine’s Day and look at what I found waiting for me.

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The milk chocolate assortment. My favorite. I didn’t wait to dig into the box. 🙂

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I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

Cardio Backlash, Really?

“Is Cardio Making You Fat?”is an article that makes me stop flipping the pages in a magazine. And that’s what happened when I was reading my new issue of Body Fit magazine.

The article discussed the effect of intense cardio on our body.

According to one researcher, long cardio sessions break down muscle tissue and stresses our body in a way that increases cortisol in our body.

Cortisol has been linked to weight gain.

So, a sweatfest of a workout may backfire on us.

Hmmm.

Interesting. Add aging, which also sets our hormones out of whack and toss in day-to-day life which is filled with stress, which has a negative effect on our bodies…seems like a vicious cycle.

Some may decide to throw their hands up and give up.

I guess that’s an option for some. But not for me.

The takeaway of the article was to lift weights, modify cardio workouts.

It would be nice if everything was black and white but life isn’t and aging definitely isn’t. I think I prefer it that way. Because if it was black and white, I wouldn’t be able to add any color.

D

Aging Gracefully, The Survey Says

A survey was done with 2,000 women in the UK and it turns out that the age of 59 is when a woman should start to age gracefully. According to them, when that birthday comes kiss your red lipstick goodbye, kick off your high heels, peel off the acrylics and become more natural.

More natural?

There’s more. After age 40 you should not don a baseball cap or apply a faux tan.

Hmmm.

If I took this survey result seriously I would find getting older sucks. You can’t hide a bad hair day, you have to live with pale skin (no tan, no red lips) and be short.

Of course I know that at some point in our lives we have to let go of the short skirts, but right now they’re not leaving my closet. Don’t even try to pry my knee-high suede heeled boots out of my hands (apparently I should have stopped wearing them at 41 but I didn’t discover them until 45, guess I’m a late-bloomer). I think as individuals we need to make our own decisions of when it’s time to pull clothing out of our closets or remove cosmetics from our makeup bags. While a faux tan may look absurd on one 50+ woman, it may look perfectly fine on another.

I guess one of the best things about aging is that we don’t have to listen to what other people say. We are old enough to make our own decisions, whether it’s about retirement planning or the height of my high heels.

Debra